There were two things that bothered me about non belief — where to direct gratitude for life’s random blessings and the weak condolence, “thinking of you.”
“Praying for you” meant religious folk got to send prayers up, together, compassionately and with intention. “Thinking of you” seemed to mean I’d consider your plight on my commute to work. And so sometimes I would say things like, “thinking of you like praying people pray.” Some thought that was clever, but it still begged a question. What is it about prayer? How does it go so far beyond thought?
I suppose many could argue it doesn’t really. That praying about someone is a meditation or a focused thinking. But I love the fact that now I can call it more then coincidence when I send out good “thoughts” and good or appropriate things return. I love that I can adhere to a connectedness beyond coincidence when that friend I hadn’t heard from in 3 months calls the day I thought of calling her.
And so, with that in mind, I have been praying for, and not just thinking of, a lot of people who are suffering right now. It’s such a bustling time of year, September, that I pray that their grief doesn’t feel disregarded by a busy world. I have a high school friend whose husband is sick, a college friend who is struggling in marriage, a family friend whose sister just died and another whose son just passed, an aunt whose father is gone, and a new friend who just got diagnosed with cancer. Whew. These folks deserve more than passing thoughts. They deserve prayers.
Do you pray, think, meditate? Does it have power behind / within / through it? If so, why?